I am not offended or really bothered by this but just thought I’d raise it as a point of interest. For those of you married out there, did you choose to adopt your husband's name or keep your maiden name and why? I have always found this really interesting. I think it’s because I think a name is really important. I don’t have a moral feminist view about what “people should do” but it just never felt right to adopt my husband’s name. I have my own name. I was given it when I was born. I was named after my great grandmother, Nonna Marianna and I love my surname. It’s Italian and my husband’s name is not. There is nothing wrong with that but I grew up with an Italian name and I would feel weird with a name that wasn’t.
The other box where I always hesitate is the - Miss, Ms or Mrs
- I am not a Miss but I like this title.
- I think Ms is a bit wanky. I remember when my grade 2 teacher got married she left on her honeymoon and came back as Ms Reed. She made a big deal of the Ms and it just seems to me like its no man’s land and trying to be secretive.
- I often use Mrs because I am married but my surname is still my maiden name so it doesn’t completely match.
(*names have been altered to protect the innocent!).