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I am not offended or really bothered by this but just thought I’d raise it as a point of interest. For those of you married out there, did you choose to adopt your husband's name or keep your maiden name and why? I have always found this really interesting. I think it’s because I think a name is really important. I don’t have a moral feminist view about what “people should do” but it just never felt right to adopt my husband’s name. I have my own name. I was given it when I was born. I was named after my great grandmother, Nonna Marianna and I love my surname. It’s Italian and my husband’s name is not. There is nothing wrong with that but I grew up with an Italian name and I would feel weird with a name that wasn’t.
The other box where I always hesitate is the - Miss, Ms or Mrs
- I am not a Miss but I like this title.
- I think Ms is a bit wanky. I remember when my grade 2 teacher got married she left on her honeymoon and came back as Ms Reed. She made a big deal of the Ms and it just seems to me like its no man’s land and trying to be secretive.
- I often use Mrs because I am married but my surname is still my maiden name so it doesn’t completely match.
(*names have been altered to protect the innocent!).
I couldn't wait to get married so I could ditch my maiden name. I hated it.
ReplyDeleteMy sister in law never changed her name and now she is getting a divorce, that was handy!
I think people can do whatever they prefer, but I do prefer Miss. It's universal.
Have to agree with you on the Miss...I like the sound of it too Miss Mandy!
DeleteI kept my maiden name. Yes, I am a feminist, but I kept it because it was 'me'. I had been that name for 27 years and I liked that name and that person.
ReplyDeleteI also use Ms because I figure it's no one else's business whether I'm married or not. Men don't advertise that fact by staying Master while they're I married, they go by Mr which can mean either. I figure Ms is the same - marital status unknown. And not important. If you need to know you will. If you don't need to know you won't.
And, of course, there's the whole Mrs traditionally means 'property of Mr' thing. LOL.
I would correct them at the school, but that's just me :-).
Great comments, thanks Michelle. You're right, I should correct them...I just have to find the right moment. : )
DeleteNow you got me thinking about Cluedo
ReplyDeleteLOL...it was Colonel Mustard with the candle stick!
DeleteI kept my maiden name when I married, there was some feminist principles beyond the decision but I also clearly remember a moment of terror where I thought - I'd be wiping Janine Fitzpatrick out of existence if I took my husband's name - I was proud of some of my achievements and didn't see why I had to make myself disappear that way (also husband's surname starts with W and I didn't want to end up at the back of the queue for the rest of my life). My girls are older now (15 and 12) but when I helped out at primary school it was just easier to be Mrs Williams (too complicated to try to explain feminist theory to a class of six-year-olds. My daughters seem OK with it all once or twice they have complained that I don't have the same surname as them but most of the time it makes no difference to them. I prefer Ms when I'm filling in the forms, just feel it's a better fit.
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